Wednesday, December 20, 2006

On Delaying The Marriage Of A Young Woman & Man Until Completion Of School

There is a widespread custom of a young woman or her father refusing
those who propose to her until she has completed her high school or
university education, or so that she may study for a number of years.
What is the ruling on that? And what is your advice to those who do
so, so that the young women might reach the age of thirty or more
without marrying?

Answer: My advice to all young men and women is to marry without delay and to
hasten to it, if conditions permit, as the Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wasallam said:

`O you young men! Those among you who have the means and the ability
should marry, because it restrains the eyes (from evil glances) and
preserves the private parts (from immorality). And whoever is unable
to do so, should fast because it is a protection for him.'
(Al-Bukhari no. 5066 and Muslim no. 1400)

And he sallallaahu 'alayhi wasallam said:

`If one whose religion and character pleases you proposes to you, then
marry (your daughter to) him. If you do not do so, it will be a cause
of trial in the land and great corruption.'
(At-Tirmithi no. 1084)

Narrated by At-Tirmithi with a Hasan chain of narrators.

And he sallallaahu 'alayhi wasallam said:

`Marry productive, loving women, because I will have the largest
number of followers on the Day of Resurrection. '
(Abu Dawud no. 2050, An-Nasa'i no. 3229, Ahmad 3/158, 245 & Ibn Hibban no. 4028)

Narrated by Imaam Ahmad and authenticated by Ibn Hibban.

It is also necessary due to the many benefits indicated by the Prophet
sallallaahu 'alayhi wasallam, such as averting one's gaze, protecting
the private parts (from sin), increasing the size of the Muslim
community, and safety from great corruption and evil consequences. May
Allaah grant all of the Muslims success in attaining that wherein lies
righteousness in the matter of their religion and their earthly life.
Verily, He is All-Hearing, Near.

Shaykh `Abdul-`Azeez Bin Baz
Fatawa Islamiyyah, Darussalam, volume 5, pages 174/175

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